When it comes to MS stress, created by grief, this can
present more problems for those of us, who have been diagnosed with
Multiple Sclerosis, than it would normally for people without the
diagnosis of MS.
extreme emotions, especially anything that leads towards more traumatic
experiences in our lives can cause incredible amounts of stress on the
nervous system of those with Multiple Sclerosis, causing the nervous
system to short circuit more often.
This can result in increasing
the scarring on the spinal cord or through out the brain, as the myelin
can have more active demyelination during times of high stress.
The added stress on our bodies
can greatly increase the change of Multiple Sclerosis attacks, relapses
or exacerbations. This means that the MS attacks can also
increase in the number of attacks that are appearing, in addition to
the stress increasing the severity of the attacks.
When we go through traumatic
evens in our lives, like when someone close to us dies, we still need
to find some way to grieve, without setting the Multiple Sclerosis into
a tail-spin or nose-dive into having our MS symptoms spin out of
Shutting down our emotions is
not a good option either, since this sets us up for having a more
extreme period of time of stress when the emotional "dam" breaks all of
a sudden, sending a flood of overwhelmed emotions through out our
bodies, making the MS stress
on our systems even worse, than if we started to deal with it as we
Allowing ourselves to grieve
is a healthy, normal reaction to the loss of a loved one or a close
friend and is needed for us to say good bye to someone who meant so
much to us in our lives.
Death enters everyone's life
at some point, but how we deal with the emotions and work through the
period of grieving makes a huge difference in how we come out of the
trauma on the other side of the event.
I have recently had to deal
with this myself, with the loss of a close friend, whom I spoke with on
a regular basis over a few years. I have found that in my own
experiences that there are a few things that we can do to help ease the
This is not to say that it
will be easy to do or not do these things, but to some degree they may
help those of us with Multiple Sclerosis to reduce the effects of MS stress on our systems.
My suggestions include the
Yourself to Grieve -- don't think that you aren't allowed
to grieve, because you are. We develop meaningful
relationships throughout our lives that help give more meaning to our
When these relationships are
suddenly broken, through say a death in the family, it takes a period
of time to get used to the idea that our loved one won't be around us
and be with us, like they were before.
* Pace Yourself
When Grieving -- take breaks off and on to allow your
nervous system to calm down some, instead of working yourself up to the
point where your body has little chance of recovering some.
This means that we need to
find a way to take breaks from grieving instead of grieving
continuously for long periods of time.
* Start to
allow your heart and spirit to heal and recover again --
this is something you do after you have allowed yourself a period of
mourning and grieving to work through the shock of it all to your
system; do this after a period of time that we have been grieving)
(If we don't do
this, we are setting ourselves up for another MS attack, that is often
much worse than it would be other wise.)
It takes time to heal all
wounds. Give yourself the time that you need. It's
okay to grieve when needed.
start to add things back into your life that help you to start to live
life again -- this may take some time to do this and this
may take more time for some people than others.
* Daily give
yourself permission -- to both learn from your experience
and to get on with living life again.
* Find a
support group -- to help you to find some way for you to
talk things out and express the grief and emotions without setting
yourself up for more MS attacks and exacerbations.
* Find a
counselor to discuss things with -- find a psychologist
or other mental health professionals to allow.
* Find ways to
de stress and allow your body to sleep at night.
There are both tranquillizers that are prescribed by a doctor
or natural remedies that can help to reduce the amount of internal
stress that we feel and to help us to be able to relax and go to sleep
If we don't rest more often,
for at least 8 hour each night than we are setting ourselves up for
having another MS relapse or exacerbation.
Deep breathing exercises or
yoga breathing can help us to relax more and be able to calm down and
go to sleep more easily, more often, but these should not be relied on
for the long term.
It does us no good to stay up
at night and worry about things.
Find other family, friends or
other acquaintances that have gone through similar experiences before in
their lives with losing a loved one that you can get together with off
and on to allow you to discuss your feelings and how you are dealing
with the loss of a loved one.
* Focus on the
good memories that you had with the person that died -- do
this instead of focusing so much of your time on the negative memories
that may pop into your head periodically. The memories of
your loved one can often help you learn to deal with the grief sooner,
I hope these tips help you to
make it through the grieving process for the loss of a loved one,
without causing you any further MS
stress and exacerbations.
Talking out all of how you
feel with the grief that you are experiencing can make a huge
difference on reducing the MS stress can help reduce the stress that you are going through.
also helps if you can find some one else with Multiple Sclerosis
that previously lost a loved one that will describe for you what they
went through and how they dealt with it themselves and they worked
through the problems that they faced because of having Multiple
Sclerosis to deal with also during the grieving process.