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Working Through MS Grief After 

 The Death of A Loved One

MS grief can aggravate the symptoms of Multiple Sclerosis and cause them to become much worse.

But what can help with reducing the effects of grief on Multiple Sclerosis, when there is a death in your family or of someone that you were close to emotionally?
Even though there is no easy answer for this one, don't despair about you being able to work through the grief and deal with the it for you.

Facing working through grief is something that all of us have to deal with in life, whether we have been diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis or not, after all death is part of the cycle of life.


There is a time to be born, a time to live and a time to die.

It's part of being human.

It's just that when it comes to Multiple Sclerosis, it's much more vital that you find ways to work through the grieving period without it impacting the Multiple Sclerosis in a way that can set you up for more MS attacks or relapses.

Although there is no "one size fits all" answer for dealing with grief, I do think that the tips listed below can help to some degree.

Tips for helping to work though and deal with MS grief can include:

* Let yourself grieve.

It's okay to grieve.

Everyone faces some events in their life that can cause them to feel grief.

This is how we work through the grieving period.

Grief brings up all kinds of emotions and crying is a good stress release.

It can help you to work through all of the emotions that tend to follow after someone dies that was a big part of your life in some way or another.

Stuffing your emotions inside, never helps for anyone, but for people with Multiple Sclerosis, it creates much more of a problem when you attempt to stuff your emotions inside and not show them on the outside.

When you try to hide your emotions inside, like if you think that showing your emotions by crying is a bad thing to do...this creates a huge amount of internal stress.

Stress for people diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis causes too much over stimulation to our nervous systems and can actually set you up for more MS attacks or relapses to occur.

So, finding ways to reduce internal stress is very important, after you are diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis, and this especially applies to MS grief.

* Allow yourself to cry to help deal with the grief that you are feeling.

Crying helps us to work through the feelings of grief after we lose a relative or someone that we felt close to emotionally.

Crying is a normal part of the process of feeling grief.

Don't tell yourself that you shouldn't cry at all.

Crying also alleviates the internal stress that would result otherwise.

* Allow yourself periods to grieve, but don't keep yourself so upset all of the time that you rarely seem to ever calm down.

It's normal to miss someone, who was in your life for a longer part of your life, while you were growing up or someone, who you felt very close to emotionally.

Yes...some how the people, who are relatives or a loved on or some one that we felt closer to like a good friend...it can feel like they were a big part of us, while they were alive....

...and when they are gone, this can leave a very big whole in our lives and cause you to feel a big loss, personally.

One thing that you need to remember is that you don't need to think that you have to forget about them after they pass on or...

...that you have to pretend that you weren't close them, when they were alive, because you don't have to pretend anything.

Let it be okay for you to feel what you feel and let yourself find a way to deal with it all.

* Give it time.

As you get further away from the point in time where your family member, loved one or friend died, it does get a little easier to go on living your life.

Unfortunately, when a person dies that we were close to in life, you feel a loss, because they do leave a void or a hole in our lives, since that person can never be replaced by anyone else.

But remember what that person meant to you and what you meant to them.

Hang onto that good memory, of how close you were when you were around them and know that you helped improve their life in some way from knowing you in he way that they did.

* Remember all of the good memories of the person that you have lost.

It helps to focus on the good memories of the person that you were so close to who died because it helps to ease our pain with losing them.

I know this doesn't bring the person back, but it helps us to know that the person loved you, or they saw you as a good friend or that you did share events in your life...

...that made you feel happy or brought joy or hope or whatever they brought that was good to your life.

Hang onto those good memories for they ease the pain and grief in having a person die, who meant so much to you before.

* Allow yourself at least a few months up to a year to grieve, if you need to or maybe even a little longer.

The length of time for the period of grieving can vary for each and every person, but at some point we need to find something to help you to start living life again, in spite of your loss.

This can sometimes be a difficult step for you to start learning to live life again, without someone Check Spellingthat you may have felt before would always be around.

After all, we will all die sometime.

It's part of the cycle of life that we don't like to talk about much.

Many families rarely or never talk about death, grieving or even what to do when someone in our families die.

But, it's one of the more unpleasant parts of the human existence that involves part of the changes in our lives that everyone must face at one point or the other.

Why I am I talking about this anyway?

Well, I recently had to face this myself, since my father died this past week.

So, the topic of MS grief is a recent thing that I have to face myself, since I also was diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis 13 years ago.

This is not an easy topic for me to write about, since I am still so upset about my father's death myself, but I feel that it is a very important topic to discuss...

...since we have to find a way for us to survive without causing more MS exacerbations, attacks or relapses...

...while somehow coming out on the other side of the grieving process to where we find some way to go on living life after a family member, loved one or even good friend dies.

So...I have been thinking about this a lot lately and I want to help you too, in spite of my feelings of sadness, grief, anger and sense of loss, because you could be having this happen to you recently too.

It's not the end of the world when someone, who was close to you emotionally dies, but at times it can sure feel like it.

I keep thinking about people, who live to be 100 years old and how much grief they have had to face in their lives, with them going through many more periods of grief...

...from them losing family members, good friends, loved ones and even spouses to death and somehow they find something to hang onto for them to be able to go on living life...

...and somehow it helps to put my own grief that I feel into perspective, but since this a recent loss for me, it still is an extreme sense of loss for me.

A death in the family can also turn things upside down for you, since it can all of a sudden mean that you need to move or go through a lot of things that belonged to the person...

...who died, and you have to decided what to to with their earthly possessions now that they are not here anymore.

I think doing these things are even tougher, since it can make it hit home more that the person is really gone and they aren't going to be around anymore.

That can stir up a lot more emotions that can add so much more to the grief that you feel after the person dies.

Going to the funeral of a loved one, family member or good friend can also be very difficult, but as far as the way that I look at it...

...a funeral is where you go to say goodbye to the person that you knew, who died.

It kind of gives some closure, like turning the page to a new chapter in your life.

It's not an easy thing to do, but it can help you realize that this person is really gone and not coming home again.

Funerals kind of make us face reality, even though this can be a very harsh reality many times.

But it is a necessary thing to go though these things to help put some order back in your life again, but that doesn't make it any easier to do.

Whatever you need to do to help you to deal with the death of a loved one, in reducing your MS grief, it will somehow be okay for you to be able to go on living life.

You will find a way for you to make it through everything included in the period grieving.

Trillions upon trillions of people around the world have gone through one or more periods of grief in their lives and they survived it all, and you can too.

Somehow you will find a way to make it though all of this.

You will somehow find a way that works for you, even if your way of grieving and dealing with grief is not mentioned or described above in this blog post.

Don't give up.

You can make it through the time of morning and the range of feelings that go along with the period of grieving for your loss.

The only reason I can say any of this at this point in my life is because I am going through all of this myself.

There is no one way to work through grief in the death of someone, who was close to you in some way emotionally, but somehow you will find a way that works for you.

Just give yourself a chance to work through the period of grief that you are dealing with and you will find a way to get through it all and you will find a way to live life again somehow.

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